My grandpa passed away 3 years ago, 28 Oct was the day. Our family done some ceremony for him. He was a Buddhism.
In Chinese society, grand-children from daughter side are not the "importance" person. Because "we, the grand-child at daughter side" carried other surname. So, during this event not attending also never mind. But, he was the only grandpa that i have and stayed with for 16 years...
I was on leave that day! But ho... the grand-children who carry his surname... only 3 appear... the rest with the reason - working! My Jing, the great grandchild still remember him and she missed him so much.
Ok, about my grandpa, he was a very traditional man loh. For example, he only gave my sister and i half of the pocket money compare to my cousin who were the same surname with him. Yap... so unfair... and my sister and i are girl lagi leh, ok!
But never mind, my grand mum will top up! haha...
Luckily, I have very good mother - who always teach us need to respect the older no matter what have they done. So i will try my best to do whatever he want me to do. Actually, he always asked me to fetch him out, i am his driver! He was the type want to eat something special, then he will call you to fetch him. Fetch him only... he won't treat for that special meal one!!! His belonging surname grandson... always had their reason why can't pick him up! When i had kids, my kids will just followed in my car loh.
I am so lucky i had a good mum although she never went to school before. At least i had quite some number of sweet memories and times with my grandpa!