Wednesday, 9 January 2008

I really "hates" my sister 1st ad 2nd kids - rude, no manners, ego... my sister la, she is the type of mother "kids can learn everything by just send them to nursery"! I been argue with her about "parents to put attention to kids more than anything" for several times liao. Both of husband and wife are the same, but ho still can have 3 kids. Now my grandma and mother so regret to ask her to give birth to 3 kids liao, since she was so selfish and never spend extra time to her kids.
Her jobs - "produce" baby, then send to her MIL to take care till 3 years old then send back to my mom for nursery. Her MIL was in Kepala Batas, no "good" nursery. Oh... She stay near my mom's house. She prefer to works, everyone in my family really encourage her to work than become a fulltime housewife.She works till 530 pm, husband and wife in the same company. So, reasonable la to go to office together. But ho, my BIL working hour not fix one leh, sometime need to work overtime leh. Off cause she can drive herself, but she refuse. So, always came back late la. Sometime 9pm!!! Hello, my dear sister, you have 2 kids to look after leh. they need someone to teach. Not just send to tuition can selesai all things one leh. Some more, your kids ho, not/won't/refuse to lishen to what Ah Mah (my mother) said one leh. Image la, 3 kids at home which can't control!! Till my husband also can't stand, he will fetch my daughter to his office from 630pm till 930pm then only send back my daughter to my mom home to sleep. He continue to work in office loh. (I am not in mah, he can work till whatever time he want. :P)
Don't know what to say to my sister liao. My mom, sound her also the same.
The different she is at home and not at home is her kids won't run from front to back and back to front. Her kids scare to her, cause her punishment - pukul anak! until sometime my mom can't stay and ask her to bring her kids home and do whatever she want, but not in front of my mom. her kids also.. will never know why kena pukul, because she never explain!
After dinner, she will just sat in front of TV and started her "pointing order"! "JQ, take this to me." " JH, take this to me", she just like a Tua Pek Kong! She will turn on the TV program that she want to watch. Her answer:" I was so tired and working whole day liao, need to relax first." Hello, my dear sister, not every TV programme is suitable to kids!
Ah... don't know what to say! I just know i will always watch myself (not kids first.). Will never repeat her step la...

4 comments:

KittyCat said...

Sigh...a lot of parents are like that. I don't understand 2 parts: if the kids go to a good nursery, they're still rude? Also, does your Mom hit them kids because they are naughty?

Montessorimum said...

common to have this kind of parents. One thing I can't understand is why give birth if don't want to put in the effort to raise the kids.

Peridot&Sapphire said...

I thought this type of parent are the type that following our parent's generation? Should be extinct liao mah... so sad la... children must shower them with love and explain to them why this and that in order for them to learn and be a better person...

Moo mommy said...

I think i have hired her a psychologist!!! but ho... need $ lo!

Kittycat, my mom never hit her grandkids. She use "love" education. cause i psycho her mah... hehe... good nursery, where got such nursery one! As a parent of 1 or 2 or 3, we also can't manage liao, do u expect one teacher can handle 10 kids.

momtessorimum, my sis want no 4 lagi loh... cause she said she hv only 1 son woh, (old mind! kolot!) but ho... nobody support her!

Dear all, i still think Home Education is much much more important than other.