Mann is going to be 1 on Saturday,what should i do?

huhu...times fliesssss..................
Mann is going to 1.

Should i plan for a party for her?

Mann is 11 mths lo!

Ok, I skipped 10 months old progress "report", lazy mah...

She is 11 months now.

During 10 months first week, she knew how to stand from sitting position liao. First she sitting, then she squaw, then she stands by her own, with free hand. She giggled when she mange to stand up by herself.
2nd progress, she knew how to blow a whistle!

During 10 months second week, she knew how "write" on paper. Jing and Yang need to do some homework, to avoid Mann disturbing I need to find her a Jumbo pencil and some paper. She just loves to "write” on paper. But after 3 days, she rejected the paper I gave and want to "write” on Jing or Yang's book too. I started "consult" her liao CAB NOT WRITE/DRAW ON THE WELL/FLOOR... ONLY PAPER! I also offer her magnetic board to draw, she just love it.
2nd progress, learn things very fast! She knew how to use remote control. While pressing on it, she will look at TV, DVD player, even air-con to see whether any changes bo. Jia Lat!
3rd progress, she reached height as TV cabinet. So she can take whatever thing beside the TV cabinet.

During 10 months third weeks, she started to show that she want to eat by her own. gave her some baby biscuit in a bowl and spoon too. So she can play with it for 1/2 hr, mean everyone can be FREE so 1/2 hr. LOL Beside that, she started calling "mama" when looking for me. Just melted my heart!

During 10 months forth week, she can walk 2, 3 steps! When she stands by her own and anyone beside her she will walk toward him. While she walks, she laughs by her own. Seem like she was enjoying that moments!

Fully 11 months, oh... I can see her 5th teeth liao! And started to making more noise or cried very very loud like someone beat her just because she can’t get her thing by her own or fight with Jing and Yang for things she want, even it’s not for her. She was so manja to daddy!

Jing's Progress

She is 24kg only and 124cm tall.
Quite tall but too skinny, not enough food? May be. Or too stress?

She is 7 now. But think like 12 years old girl. Quite a lot of supposed mummy has to do things she will complete for me or start worry about it, including Yang's progress. That's why she is so stress, created she the tension!

She is a smart girl. I no need to call for her to review her study, do her homework, eat, bath, playing, reading... I only have reminded her to do her work. No shouting for her. I even stop checking for her homework, everything will be done perfectly.

Ok, she still monitor in her class as her form teacher said she can finish/complete her homework very soon so she can help her in many ways, like helping the other friends, carry books, etc. Teacher never tough her HOW to be a monitor, so normal way lo, she will shout to friends to ask them keep quiet. Then she started to write those "naughty” friends on the board and later teacher will punish them. All these made her friend “hate" her! She started to show her unstably behavior/bad temper since April. She is facing social problem with her friends now! She never knew how to express all these unhappiness and end up she fight a lot at home! Fight with the brother, sister even Ah Ma. So lucky that I got my transfer back to Bukit Mertajam and I can over seeing my 3 kids all by myself. Teach, guide, even share with them from now on. It's serious on my girl case! Almost every night she fights in anything’s!! Making me nut!

What should I do? I talk with her day care teacher about these and she also noticed it. So we came out with the conclusion, my Jing not only in a very stress situation but also she wants my attention! The first thought came in my mind; I am not a good mother! She’s understood what I have to do for Yang; I need more times for Yang and baby, and just I never care about how she feels. She stills a child and she needed my LOVE too. I just always think that she is a "little adult" to me. Poor Jing! Manage to talk with her in privately, she cried and cried and cried, and I promise her that I will always find some times for her and also want her to tell me that she needs my attention if she feels that I am less time for her. She stopped fighting with Yang now and can help me in guiding him to do some works too.

While, in her social part, I just told her my experience and I want her to think how to solve it by her. She can suggest the method and I will discuss with her. So far, she has solved most of the problems especially with her friendship part. Can you imagine what a miracle if I put myself down as a parent and talk with her like a friend!